Goldenarticles articles

When kids hurt parents - parenting


The cruel cold explanation made by our offspring can every now and then wound us deeply, to the very core of our soul. The inappropriate words of our family can scar us like no other. They are able of hurting us with the deepest kind of hurt. When the words "I hate you" spurt forth from the mouth of a five year old in the throes of a temper outburst we tend to overlook them. When words such as those are hurled at us from the lips of our teenage or adult offspring they cut sharper than any blade bogus from steel. The wound can be annoying exit us open and vulnerable to coming hurt. We forgive them. They're our children, we love them so how can we not forgive them? Yet the pain of such destructive words still lingers. In the back of a parent's mind, it is only accepted that doubt must remain. Did he certainly mean what he said or was it just anger talking? Does my child especially hate me? Have I disastrous as a parent?

We're only human so we're bound to ask ourselves. We inevitably believe that our offspring are interim out due to our own inadequacies as a parent. We are left atmosphere a disarrange of mixed emotions. We feel angry with our family for the tone they've taken with us; we feel angry with ourselves for not raising them develop but most of all we feel hurt. We awe what we've done to deserve such treatment. Times have changed. Offspring are more frank and blunt with their parents but a alteration of times ought to not warrant disrespect. As a teenager I would have never treated my protect with the type of contempt that is so communal these days. Definitely we had our moments like every father and child but I would not have carefully oral out adjacent to her with hatred or contempt.

Many parents tend to blame themselves to the point that they will downright deny any disrepute going to en route for them from their own children. This is done more to keep themselves fairly than their offspring. To admit contempt on the part of their brood would be to admit closure on their part. Parents shouldn't at all times blame themselves for the shortcomings of their daughters and sons. We do the best we can and each child is atypical as is each parent. It used to be that parents predictable too much of their children. Though that still occurs, it seems the roles have reversed to some extent. Now, offspring count on too much of their parents. This is due in part to the commercialism and competitiveness of the world we live in. Circle is one huge business-related venture.

Oftentimes parents are predictable to have change for the better jobs, nicer cars and superior houses. If they can't give their offspring with fat allowances and the newest name brand clothes they may be labeled a bad parent. Many teenagers have an issue with respect. They fully assume others to treat them with acknowledge but they definitely don't know how to treat others, as well as their own parents, the same way. Doctrine kids good old fashioned morals may work for some but categorically not all. Sadly, it appears the temptations of today's world seem to be attractive out. Perhaps, divine evenhandedness will prevail when our kids reap what they sow all through their own children.

Darlene Zagata is a irregular author and journalist for the print magazine Moon Gloom Magazine. She is also the creator of "Aftertaste: A Assembly of Poems" and "The Choosing. " Her work has been in print extensively both online and in print. For more in rank visit her website at http://darlenezagata. tripod. com or call Darlene at darzagata@yahoo. com


Parenting Pandemic Style

Parenting During COVID-19  Psychology Today

Parenting in the age of COVID-19?  Lewiston Sun Journal

Feminist Parenting Through a Pandemic  Rebellious Magazine for Women

Developed by:
home | site map © 2020