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Parenting your teenager: how to say no! - parenting


Q: At any time we tell my daughter "no," she just bugs and pesters until we give in. I know it's wrong to give in, but she makes equipment so distasteful that we give in just to make peace. How can we turn this circumstances around?

A: You have a problem. Your daughter knows that your nos are not to be taken seriously. When you say "no" and then give in to the inevitable hassling and imploring that follows, you teach your daughter that "no" does not mean "no. "

She has academic that no certainly means

"I just haven't bugged and hurried and manipulated and pressured my parents an adequate amount of to get to yes, so I now need to do more. "

And every child I have ever known is more than up to that task.

It is achievable to turn this circumstances around; you just have to be enthusiastic to commit to see this all the way through to the end, since you are in for a battle.

Preparing to say NO

As you begin to say "no," your daughter is going to counter with a flood of what's called "change back behavior. " She has had it made for a while now, and she is not going to give this up easily.

There is a very critical aim I stress since this all the way through to the end.

If you begin to say "no," hold your bring down longer than before, and then give in, you have made the job even worse than before.

So count the cost beforehand you begin, agree as one to say "no," stand your ground, and bar down the hatches.

This is going to take a while.

While you are maxim "no," it's convenient to be concerned about at once what equipment to which you can say "yes. " A "yes" here and there, when appropriate, go a long way to escalation your "no. "

Eventually, your daughter will learn that your yes is yes and your no is no.

For more tips and tools for parenting your teenager, visit parenting coach Jeff Herring's ParentingYourTeenager. com


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