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Got to, get to ? alteration the way your children thinks - parenting


I a short time ago heard a story that has plainly distorted the way that I, and my family, think about life. The story is as follows:

There was once a high-powered woman in her 30s who ran her own ballet company and was massively doing well in business. Yet every lone day, at 10am, she visited her elderly mother, who was in an old peoples' home. When asked if she could attend meetings at that time, she would reply, "I'm sorry, I've got to visit my mother". She at times resented the commitment and was infrequently ridiculed, but nevertheless answered, "No, I'm sorry, I've got to visit my mother. "

One day her nurse died. Soon afterwards she was asked if she could make a business meeting at 10am the next day. She started to reply, "No, I'm sorry, I've got to visit my mother", but of classes briefly realised that this was no longer the case. Sadly, she realised that for many years she had been saying, "I've got to visit my mother" when what she

should have as a substitute been maxim was, "I get to visit my mother". She would never "get to" visit her protect again.

So how does the story communicate to other situations? I have been astounded by how many times the story has seemed appropriate since I heard it, just a few weeks ago. It applies to so many assorted aspects of category and working life, from the large to the mundane. For example, I first told my son the story when he was crabby about some extra French module he was having at weekends ("I can't believe I've got to go to the French tutor"). I explained that he is lucky to "get to" have the French classes: lucky that we care a sufficient amount to become aware of he needs them, and lucky that we can find the money for to pay for them.

I accepted wisdom of the story last night when my a small amount girl was using every delaying tactic in the book about going to bed, and just refused to alight down. I trapped for myself thinking, "Oh no, I've got to go upstairs, miss the end of the television show I'm watching, and calm her down and settle her into bed" ? but briefly replaced the accepted wisdom with something along the lines of "I'm lucky that I "get to" spend 5 quiet follow-up with this funny, amazing barely girl, even if I am tired and could do with some rest!"

And I belief of the story again just this break of day when the beeper on my dive dryer aggravated me into emptying my clean washing! I curved some very negative, lazy belief around by reminding for my part that I was lucky to have a dive dryer, the clothes to put into it, and the ancestors to be washing them for! It was still a chore but in some way it didn't seem such a bad one anymore.

My spouse reminds himself of the story when the alarm clock goes off early in the dawn and he struggles out of bed and to the train. He "gets to" go to work. Many ancestors don't. And I think of it when I am sitting, uninspired, in front of my computer, wishing that I didn't have admin or website chores to do for Commotion Village. The brain wave doesn't last long. I may have admin and website household tasks to do, but I also "get to" bestow actions and inspiration to parents, teachers and family about the world every week. How lucky can I be?

Lindsay Small is the architect and editor of Activity Village. co. uk - given that the basic one-stop supply for parents and teachers looking to educate and entertain their kids. Visit the website at http://ww. ActivityVillage. co. uk or subscribe to the free newsletter at http://www. ActivityVillage. co. uk/free_newsletter. co. uk


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