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Beliefs kids the value of money - parenting


My spouse and I have a 12-year-old daughter who sought after to go to a iciness draw back with her place of worship youth group last year. Price of trip - $45. I told her I'd talk to her dad about it. "HOW much is it?" he asked, "didn't she just go someplace with the youth group?" "Yes," I replied, "and also to two friends' birthday parties. An added one is appearance up this weekend. " We both approved that was a lot of money for us to spend for our daughter to have fun with her friends.

But the draw back was a cathedral activity. So we must have cleft out the money for her go, right? Well, maybe. In the past year or so our daughter had made a lot of new links and had been asked to be complicated in a lot of new communal activities. Last summer was the first year we could give to let her go to summer camp for a week. It content me more than something to tell her she could go.

The more we've let our daughter go do effects with her friends, the more she takes those clothes for granted, and expects more. She then resents doing amazing so boring as her household chores. So now we make sure her farm duties are done beforehand she goes anywhere. "Room's not clean, laundry not started? Develop hurry and do them beforehand you go do a touch with your friends. Don't have time? Then I guess you're out of luck. " But that was only the start. At any time the approach starts in she's given a alert and then privileges start being taken away, one by one.

You have to amount out what works for you. You may have to teach each child individually, as each is motivated differently. If your kids happily hand over their allowance every time they don't take out the garbage, you must take some other privilege away.

Resist the urge to give your family too much allowance. Don't buy them equipment that they can save money for themselves, like designer clothes, CD's, magazines, make up, video games, etc. Even young kids can be qualified to save for small things. Approximately nonentity makes me more sad than bearing in mind family who take their allowances for contracted and never have to work for it. Parents aren't doing their kids any special treatment by coaching them to count on the whole lot to be handed to them. We sacrifice, and they don't be glad about it. Why be supposed to they? They don't have everything to lose.

So did our daughter get to go on her retreat? We certain she could go if she paid $20 of the $45. She was not happy about it. She only gets $3 a week allowance, and she was reduction her money for a new CD. She stewed about it for awhile, and then pronged over what money she had. We worked out a payment schedule for her to come up with the rest of the money ahead of the weekend of the retreat, and we let her do extra everyday jobs to earn a few more dollars. Are we guilty of child abuse? Our daughter thinks so, but her dad and I know better.

About The Author

Rachel Paxton is a casual journalist and mom of four. For more inspirational articles and tips for everyday living, visit her web sites at http://www. creativehomemaking. com and http://www. christian-parent. com


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